1: Can you help me?
4: Yes of course.
1: I am consumed with feelings for someone who doesn’t have them for me. I have trouble sleeping and wake up aroused. I have no choice but to think about her and when I do I am flooded with physical desire for her. This is “in love” right?
4: You know that sexual desire changes and what you are feeling now may fade away?
1: Yes I know craving isn’t love, but it isn’t as simple as that.
4: What do you think triggered it this time?
1: I don’t know.
4: Pain is attracted to pain because it wants more of it.
1: I’m not sure I agree with that. It’s recognition of something in another, a similar frequency or whatever you want to call it. I suppose if you see similar expression in another, empathy can create feelings of closeness.
4: Can you express your feelings to her?
1: It’s not possible or helpful to be open with her, she has her own life and I want her to be happy.
4: Examine whether that is really true, or are you being fearful?
1: No, it’s not possible, selfish even.
4: Then this is an opportunity for you to practice love with non-attachment.
1: Doesn’t sound very romantic.
4: Love is giving, complete, the source of everything. Love doesn’t need to crave anything. This is where peace and serenity reside.
1: Sounds like you’re saying I should not get too close to anyone or need or miss anyone. It sounds unnatural, uncaring.
4: Love is not conditional on the circumstances in this world. Let your heart break, don’t be afraid, don’t struggle, you will find that nothing is ever lost.
1: I don’t know what you’re talking about.
4: Yes you do. Be still, radiate love, your true nature beyond the conditioning of your mind.
